One of the problems is that parents with disabled children truly want their children to be as normal as possible. Children with disabilities do much better when they are mainstreamed with normal children. We want to raise the bar for these children not lower it. Putting them in some substandard classroom or school is not the answer either. I don't know. Maybe your right about taking them out of the regular school system altogether. But it would cost a lot of money to do it right.

Just for the record. I am not looking for gov. handouts. But if there is anyone in this world that should get government handouts it's the children with disabilities and their families. Did you know that families that put their kids in daycare get tax breaks but people who home school their children get nothing. You can't write off books, supplies, field trips to the zoo or museum nothing. If classrooms are so crowded that teachers can't teach that many children you would think they would be very happy to have more home schooling and even encourage it.

I have a 19 year old son, and he went to public school. I was glad for that. But public school has definitely changed. I'd say his experience was good in spite of the school, not because of it. And given your special needs, I just don't think the school is capable of dealing with it. When asked to try, they fail you miserably. I'm sorry for your trouble, I really am.