I was involved in a car accident last night, and a good mate of mine passed away in hospital who was in the car with me. He had prior medical conditions and the nurses said if he didnt he would not have died in the accident, a normal man wouldnt have died. But his gone now and I blame myself. The accident involved another car smashing into the side of the vehicle I was driving at around 60-70km/h, into the left hand passengers door side where my mate was sitting. And I walked away with no injury, but my mates passed away. Cant believe this sort of thing can happen.... take care out on the roads guys, you dont wanna have this happen to you.

Adrian

My mother died a short time ago. She wasn't feeling well for a couple of days and told my brother not to come over and see her - she had the flu and she didn't want him or the grandkids to catch it.

Well, she died suddenly on the third day. My brother thinks it's his fault. Had he gone over (even though they talked on the phone at least 6 times over the two days) he could have done something. But he couldn't - my mother didn't know she was deathly ill, and she wouldn't have gone to a doctor for the flu. In the end, he could not have made any difference.

And in the end, you couldn't have made any difference either. It's not your fault. Feel bad, but don't feel guilty - I've seen how that can really do damage to you and the people around you.

Go be with his family and remember him together. It's the best thing you can do for each other now.

I'm so sorry to hear that. You must be in shock, saddened and not really believing that it could have happened. All the "what ifs" running around in your mind.

I wish we lived nearer and could hang out. I think you're going to need to surround yourself with good freinds. You've sure been a good guy to know and visit with here.

Let me know if there's anything I can do.

Wayne

Thats such a terrible thing to have to go through. I wish you the best. It's hardest when things happen that are out of our control

Bill

Gar.

Don't blame yourself. Grieve your loss but don't feel shame. This is your friend and you would not have harmed him. It was out of your hands.

Thanks again.
Adrian

I know I don't know you (too new to the forum to know anyone) but I'd like to offer my warmest thoughts to you at any rate. Coming from a stranger, that might seem strange.

What the other posters say surely sounds sensible and valid. Too bad human nature operates too much 'the other way' and we can't SEE it.

Time is the necessity to sort matters out. Try to recall the last moments together with your buddy.

Yours,

Laurence