When I first started playing it, even the family pets protested. The dogs would bark, and the cats would scurry down to the basement. The oboe is a difficult instrument. Although figuring out the keys is simple, working out the reed placement in the mouth is complicated. It's a sensitive instrument. Taking lessons from a professional could really help if you guys have that option. Does she actually enjoy playing the instrument, or is she merely doing it to please her band director? She must be a talented flutist, since she was chosen to try the oboe. It's a shame that band directors resort to that, though. Not every child wants to switch.
I hope you'll stick around the forum, dervlin. I really like your sense of humor. Plus, it's always nice to have new perspectives in the mix.