I think I'd want my child to be happily involved with as many nice friends as they could find too. Seems like it would be best for children to be around other well-adjusted children, that's the best environment. So I think I'd want my children to be mainstreamed with others too.I have a 19 year old son, and he went to public school. I was glad for that. But public school has definitely changed. I'd say his experience was good in spite of the school, not because of it. And given your special needs, I just don't think the school is capable of dealing with it. When asked to try, they fail you miserably. I'm sorry for your trouble, I really am.