ummm, spending thousands of dollars? dealers? you've stumbled into a largely diy community here...we drive friends crazy who have spent tens of thousands of dollars at the high-end dealers and can't figure out why their system doesn't sound anywhere near as good as ours. If you post on here or on Bottlehead forum, or some other diy boards, it's likely you can find someone who will let you listen to their system, or even better, you can find a group get-together and hear a lot of gear at once.